2 Curious Questions I’ve Been Asking Myself…
Hey friend
Just a short email today as I am off with my two sisters for a couple of days. We haven’t been together in one place for a while so this is going to be fun!
Over the past wee while I have had two curious questions bumping around in my mind…
1. Does this (thing, person, event, activity, thoughts, emotions etc) support the life I want to create?
Big question, right?
Have a think about it…read the question again…
Does this…
thing
event
activity
thought
emotion…
…support the life I want to create?
This big question is so helpful to ensure that I am aligned with my values and with the lifestyle that I want to enjoy.
Sometimes we can veer off course and this question stops us in our tracks to reflect - is this serving me well?
I invite you to try this curious question this week. I would love to know if it is helpful to you and any examples of how this reflection has worked for you - reply to this email or leave a comment.
It can work for not doing something to - I ask myself - does NOT going for a walk today support the life I want to create? No way! I want to be that happy active 75 year old who takes a daily walk around her neighbourhood.
Another way of answering this question is to write down your core values then mark down next to each one - does this thing, event, thought, activity, emotion etc align with each value?
I did this for the recent weekend I had away with hubbie and I was surprised to discover that every single one of my core values was satisfied - so that meant my weekend away was a success.
If you don’t know how to discover your core values - check out these articles…
2. Am I being honest with myself?
Being honest with yourself means dropping the internal PR campaign. It’s the moment when you stop trying to spin your own story into something more flattering or comfortable, and instead look squarely at what’s true — even if it’s inconvenient or uncomfortable.
It’s not about self-criticism or brutal confession; it’s about accuracy. It’s the art of seeing without distortion.
You might say, “I’m not lazy; I’m tired,” …but is that true?
Is this more accurate … “I’m not tired; I’m avoiding something.”
The honesty lies in naming what’s actually happening, not what you wish were happening.
Psychologically, this kind of honesty is a cornerstone of growth. Without it, every decision sits on quicksand, because you’re building from false data. With it, even pain becomes useful information.
The point isn’t to judge what you find, but to see it. Once you see, you can choose.
Self-honesty is the beginning of self-love .
You can’t genuinely love what you’re pretending to be.
A good practice is to ask yourself: “What truth am I avoiding right now because it would require me to change?”
I might explore this further in another post - what do you think? let me know.
That’s it friend.
Rachel xx